Lessons From a Baby’s World

“Have you ever watched a baby learning to walk? He totters, arms stretched out to balance himself. He wobbles – and falls, perhaps bumps his nose. Then he puts the palms of his little hands flat on the floor, hikes his rear end up, looks around to see if anybody is watching him. If nobody is, usually he doesn’t bother to cry, just precariously balances himself – and tries again. Well, the baby can teach us. What you’ve undertaken…isn’t a state of perfection to be arrived at all of the sudden. It’s a WALK, and a walk isn’t static but ever-changing. We Friends say that all discouragement is from an evil source and can only end in more evil. Wallowing in self-condemnation or feeling sorry for yourself is worse than falling on your face in the first place. . . So thee is human.”
Catherine Marshall, Christy

I teach children as young as seven months old how to swim and survive water accidents. I have learned a lot from teaching these children. I particularly cherish the lessons they’ve taught me about pride: how it’s built, how it helps, and how it hinders growth.

Babies don’t know much about pride. When learning something new babies know about: comfort and discomfort; frustration and curiosity; trial and error; success and failure; happiness, anger, and fear too. Pride is not a big part of the equation, yet. This is why they succeed at learning so many new things, at the same time, so quickly. At the youngest age it’s parental and teacher reaction to a baby’s efforts and results that teaches a child about pride, or it’s counterpart shame.

Pride is a double edged sword. It can push us to great heights and it can save us from ruin. Or, it can inflate our ego and make us believe we are indestructible, irrefutable and irreproachable.

As we are building the foundation of our success, if we’re not watchful, pride can turn into a stumbling block. Pride can blind the path forward with confusion, by convincing us that all success equals righteousness, every failure equals shame, discomfort is bad, and frustration will always hurt or never end, and standing alone means you’re doing it wrong.

Life can be uncomfortable and unfair at the same time you are doing the right thing at the right time –it’s ok for it to be that way.

I know an elementary school principal who keeps a sign in her office that says: “If you’re not squirming, you’re not learning.”

So, do what you love. Listen to others. Think about what you hear. Or, just think about your own stuff. Try some of it, maybe. Learn what you can. Use what works for you. Leave what doesn’t. When others try to hurt you let it slide past –it’s not about you, it’s about them. Cheer for yourself and cheer for others too, even when things are going poorly, because we’re all out there working and learning, that actually means something!

And don’t take any of it too seriously, just breathe deep and keep trying.

It’s A Kerouac Thang!

I have a great love for buildings with faded glory. Buildings that have a sort of story lurking about their empty shells. At first, it’s just an abandon mess, a hunk, an eyesore piece of trash that irritates locals, until it fades into the scenery and becomes ignored. No one notices exactly when they slip

Those Dark Angels

Never curse your dark angels, they’ve been sent to show you your light. And just as you will have dark angels to cope with, you will have moments of being another’s dark angel too. I learned this lesson over 17 years ago, from Caroline Myss in her ‘Spiritual Madness’ recording. That all sounds very dramatic.

The Bullied and The Bully

There were two endings to yesterday’s post. I believe in both endings I wrote, but had mixed feelings about the message I was conveying by ending with those words. Ultimately I felt that using my words and thoughts as an ending would diminish Shane Koyczan’s comfort to the bullied, and impacting message to bullies and

Clip Clop…

Clip-Clop, Clip-Clop, Tickity-Tack, Tickity-Tack, Tickity-Tack Never let them steal your bright soul or own your beautiful bridge. Show up. Speak bravely. It’s the only way I know how to win. Special thanks to Shane Koyczan’s beautiful and inspiring lifeline words! Find more of his work here! (If you read this post as I originally published

Roller Girl Problems…

They’re the same everywhere. And the music was always the answer to make them roll away. “Toro Toro Taxi, see you tomorrow my son”

Pinprick Of Light

We all need and want to believe that we can transend and transform into something authentic and new in this life. That once we become dead inside but our body still lives on that we can some how resurrect ourselves and become alive again. And always we want that transformation to set us apart from

Why Do Bad Things Happen To…

Good People? I can’t answer that for you. But today I will share with you some of the things that I cling to when I struggle with that question, or when I am struggling through my own trials. Over the whole of my life, even up to this point in time, I have been on

Light It Up

Oh, Darling. It always happens this way. Their a-gonna come A-creepin’ A-sneakin’ and A-peepin’ Telling you how to run your show. What I want to know is this: What’cha gonna do when they Point that fish-eyed lens at you; A-yellin’ A-sellin’ and A-pimpin’ All these things you hold dear? While they go about A-faddin’ A-addin’

To Everything There Is A Season…

And a time to every purpose under heaven. Ecclesiastes 3 Verse 3-22. Or, The Byrds… Always people on their knees begging to learn the big “T”: ‘Truth’. Until you start to speak it to them. But how many people truly listen past the verses they want to hear? Not many. Because once you start to